Sometimes things don't go as well in your professional life as you expected. A mistake happens, a misstep, something that just didn't lead you where you had planned. It may not be a positive experience, but it's certainly something you can't avoid unless you avoid doing anything in your life. There are some habits that give you strength and drive your thinking in the right direction.
Therefore, it would be good to come to terms with two realities: a) that failure is part of life and b) that it happens to everyone, even the most successful. What you need is a way to manage such situations, instead of letting them lead you into a vicious cycle of negative thoughts. A way that suits you and moves you forward.
You need to find habits that will give you strength. These are some of the ways of thinking that I believe will be useful to you:
1. First of all, accept this feeling.
Don't try to ignore it in any way and don't blame it elsewhere. Nor pretend permanently with a smile. The sooner you accept it and don't dismiss it, the easier it will be to process what happened. Otherwise the emotions will find other ways to surface, either psychological or physical.
you're not a failure just because things didn't go as you expected.
If, for example, in the professional field, the working environment was not what you expected or you failed to achieve the goals set for you, it is easy to start thinking that you will always fail in this area of your life and you will identify this belief with your value. That is, you will believe that you are indeed a failure. This is a self-fulfilling prophecy that does not serve you.
In fact, the opposite is true: Just because you failed today or yesterday doesn't mean you will fail next time. The truth is that it won't last for the rest of your life. HOWEVER, it is important to keep moving forward, take action and keep learning. Seeing the negative as something temporary instead of something permanent is an essential key to an optimistic outlook on life.
3. Take what you can from this situation.
Think of it more as valuable feedback. I've found that the simplest and most helpful way to do this is to ask yourself questions like:
What can I learn from this?
How can I adjust my course to avoid this trap next time?
After all, as the great Malcolm Forbes said: "Failure, if you learn from it, is actually success."
anyone who wants to do important things in life will surely taste failure.
One of the worst habits is to only hear about people's successes.
But the path to this point tends to have many failures. One's success story as projected by the media and social media can only seem bright, quick and effortless.
But reality is often like this quote from Michael Jordan:
"In my career, I've missed over 9,000 baskets. I've definitely missed at least 300 games and 26 times when the game was decided by my shot, I shot and missed. I've failed so many times in my life that I don't even remember them. And that's why I became successful."
5. Learn to fail in public
Surely experiencing a failure in public is, apart from being discouraging, also humiliating. You think about what others will think of you and that the image they had in their minds will change for the worse. But the revolutionary suggestion around failure is this: whether you win or lose, always do it publicly and proudly. This is for the following reason: When you inform your circle of acquaintances of your efforts, you automatically you push yourself to try harder. This gives you the impetus to try harder. It will help you to remove any doubts and fight for your goal.
6.Find inspiration from your network.
A conversation with people close to you can be very helpful. Also learning clever techniques to build your professional network through the online courses by Philothei Matsigou, can help you find the support you need. That way you can learn tips from people who have gotten where you want to go and the obstacles along the way. It's very rewarding to build such daily habits of interacting with people who can help you grow.
Also through books, websites or internet forums you can get valuable information by changing your mood and mindset in the right direction.
These were some of the new empowering habits you could adopt to treat failures as opportunities, discovering new paths and changing your life for the better.
Career Counsellor / Career Guidance
Member of the Greek Association of Consulting, Coaching & Mentoring-HCCMA
After completing my studies in Political Science and Public Administration at the University of Athens, I attended seminars in Customer Service, Public Relations and Sales in order to add more value to the services I offer. In recent years,I started a new chapter in my life through Life Coaching and Career Counseling and my Vision is to help people have a successful career path combined with balance in their personal life.